Today I feel compelled to write about the toxic effect of gossip. The power of words to wound or to heal, to create beauty and harmony, or ugliness and enemy lines.
In my own life I have seen firsthand how destructive gossip can be, from being on both the receiving end as well as a participant in gossip. No, my hands are not clean.
When a person is gossiped about by their friends, family, coworkers, etc, they know it without *knowing* it. Why? Because words are energy – energy that is exchanged between people and energy that fulfills the intention that was behind the words that were spoken. The intentions behind our words are like a sort of predetermined flight path. An algorithm that is set and will essentially play itself out in the universe, either causing good things or destructive things for ourselves and others. This is my belief, anyway.
If you are bitter with another person and you speak this bitterness out behind their back, they feel it. If you are mocking a person and belittling them, celebrating their struggles, elevating yourself above them, it will eventually touch that person. It will find them and it will wound them. The energetic tendrils reach out and out and out, the intention (if poisonous) pollutes the emotional atmosphere, and everyone involved becomes toxic unless there is awareness, a change of heart, communication, and words of love replacing words of hate.
The human desire for love, acceptance and belonging is perhaps the most powerful driving force behind almost everything we do. When we feel the toxicity of gossip or hate, of misunderstanding or jumping to conclusions about one another, our well being itself becomes threatened. This leads to serious mental/emotional dysfunction and struggle. Dis-ease in the body. Dis-ease in the spirit. And that can never be good.
A toxic state needs to be cleansed. If you are gossiping regularly about other people, you are creating a toxic state for yourself as well as the person you are gossiping about – especially if their defenses are down. If you are being gossiped about and betrayed by those who claim to care for you, this creates a sense of disconnection and fear – it compromises your sense of well being and safety, and again, becomes a toxic state for you.
We need to detox from these states. We need to stop gossiping. We need to approach each other and work it out – human being to human being. We need to access our higher selves and find a loving solution.
I wanted to bring this to light so that all of us can reflect today on the POWER OF OUR WORDS. Remembering that words are never empty and we never “get away” with gossiping or slandering another. There is always an effect. There is always an energetic shift. The question we have to ask ourselves is, what kind of an effect do we want to have on others? Do we want to cause an increase of love in their lives or an increase of fear? And if we are in conflict with another, what can be done to resolve that conflict? Can we find the courage to approach them and speak our truth with integrity? There is a way when there seems no to be no way, and LOVE is the way! It makes a way. It leads the way. It IS the way.
So love each other. Love your friends. Love your family members. Love your coworkers, and as the prophet Jesus taught, “Love your enemies.” There is so much we don’t know about each other. You can look into my eyes for a hundred years and never know the true complexities and intricacies of my soul, the thoughts that cycle through my mind, the struggles I face, and reasons I do what I do. We are foundationally connected as human beings – made from the same fabric – but there is a permanent and mysterious unknowableness to all of us, as we are forced to inhabit our own bodies and minds alone. It is an alienating experience sometimes. But if we can appreciate that mystery and engage in the adventure of loving each other, then we will be searching, day by day, for the beauty in one another.
Just like the crystal formations that exist deep in the earth that are never seen, only known about. Each person is a mystery, and the object is not to SOLVE each other, but to appreciate as much as we can, to continue to seek to understand, and to be in awe of the amazing discoveries we make about each other along the way. That is the best we can ask for. That is beautiful. That is how we know god without *knowing* god.
Waxing philosophical today. Thanks for reading.